Bachelor Blues.. :)

There was an interesting discussion going on between some colleagues at American Express about arranged marriages and love marriages. Smriti, who is a manager there suddenly says to the extent that most of the cases in a love marriage are those involving love blossoming during school/college days and that there is no point in we guys (the not so successful ones in school/college and who are now working and rather old) discussing about it at all. Basically, she meant we are quite hopeless now. Obviously, I was at a loss for words. But she did have a point.

Her point was this : outside of office, where do you get to meet women? Even if you meet them, interaction would be quite limited compared to school/college days or if they are from your office. How can one expect to develop a relationship in such a case? Well, that is true in my case. I have hardly interacted with the opposite sex after school days for no particular reason and that obviously shows in my social life..:(. And, I am totally clueless about what to do about it. Somebody should write a dating handbook for beginners with step by step guidelines (with an Indian perspective!!, I know there are too many otherwise).

Her argument is, obviously, flawed. People do seem to find love after school/college (thankfully). But I don't know the mechanics involved. How do they build on a relationship ?(Come on! it can't be that easy as shown in the movies). And the word 'find' worries me.. :). So what, one just waits for something to happen? Does one just bump into someone he finds very interesting and attractive? and then what ? I have no idea. And I am sure no enlightenment is going to happen in the near future. In the meanwhile all I can do is envy the lucky ones, feel a bit of self-pity and carry on with my life. "Dil pe math le yar,.... " well! you knw that line, don't you :D